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Why do we hurt others?
Zhang Ling Shan
Abstract
Aggression is common in our life, especially in children. I want to lead to the
concept of aggression through describing the specific example. Using psychology
theory to explain aggressive behavior, and to find out why do we attack others and
how
should
we
control
the
behavior
from
psychology.
Especially
the
famous
Bandura
’
s social learning theory in the psychological history. Finally, I summarize
on my view on psychology theory of aggression and put forward five suggestions
on
practical
case.
I
hope
this
paper
can
play
an
inspired
role
on
children's
aggressive behavior research.
Key words:
Aggression Social-Learning-Theory Children
Aggression of Li Lei
Li Lei is a boy, on the fourth grade. When he was a child, his parents often
quarrel, especially he had often seen his father scolding and beating his mother.
Since his kindergarten, Li Lei began to humiliate other students, quarrel or fight
with others. The violent behaviors are so frequently that his classmates don
’
t like
him and unwilling get along with him. Of course, he doesn
’
t like to participate in
any
group
activities
and
hide
away
from
his
teachers
instead
of
initiating
to
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contact with them. At home, Li Lei is rarely communicate with his parents, even he
will angry with his relatives or friends who just touch Li lei
’
s head for expressing
their friendly.
One time, Xiao Xiao gently pat Li Lei
’
s back with book and wanted to say
hello. However, suddenly
，
Li Lei became very irritable. Then, he struck Xiao
’
s head
heavily and haven
’
t stop until Xiao Xiao crying. With strange, see crying, he even
laughing. Li Lei really like call nicknames to other students. For instance, Because
of Xiao Mei
’
s little chubby, Li Lei always call her
“
a dinosaur
”
and laugh at her.
The result is that Xiao Mei often cry secretly and afraid anyone.
When his elementary school, gradually, Li Lei was treated as a
“
violent child
”
by
his
teachers.
Whenever
he
makes
a
mistake,
teachers
always
punish
him
standing
in
office
for
several
hours.
To
everyone
surprise,
he
love
this
punish
method.
One
day,
his
parents
spotted
that
he
was
watching
violent
TV
show.
His
parents ruthlessly scolded and beaten him for stopping his violent behaviors, even
asked him to go to study. But he had become aggravated the bully others, until
now,
Li
Lei's
temper
is
great,
easily
angered,
Roar,
difficult
to
control
his
own
behavior.
What is Aggression?
Social
psychologists
defined
“
Aggression
”
as
an
intentional
behavior
to